Well, she does know because 4 years ago I made myself a sauté salmon with a lemon sauce and had an allergic reaction afterward which I remember calling her about, b/c my lips got itchy and swelled up and I called to ask her if it was the lemon or the salmon since she is a nurse. I took the Benedryl and the allergic reaction went away. I tried salmon again after that with no reaction, so it means I'm definitely allergic to lemon.

So, it felt insensitive on multiple levels, to have her offer me that gift. Like, a normal healthy sibling relationship means two sisters would communicate reciprocally with each other without any hidden agendas.

Like, if we had a health relationship, she would have included me in sharing her trip photos etc. and would maybe have asked me what small gift I'd like her to bring back for me from the country she visited.

She wouldn't have made up a story about how her iphone was dying b/c she switched it last minute with her other son (like, why would she need to do that before a trip), and that was why she couldn't take photos (she posted them on her active FB account but didn't share with me, I saw them through a mutual connection's FB wall) or talk long on FaceTime. What mother switches phone with a child before a long trip, instead of using their own phone and getting their own phone prepared (new battery, etc.)?

Like, I just don't understand. I really don't. Am I missing something?