It sounds to me, too, that you did enough. It may never seem like enough to you, but you did a lot.

My brother committed suicide at the age of 65, about 5 years ago. He had mood problems and became an alcoholic and a drug addict. We had lots of interpersonal problems, but I am so glad that the last things I said to him were kind ones, and offering to help him with a problem he'd gotten into. Thank God I made that call, 3 days before he died. He refused the help but he seemed to appreciate the offer.

Please take comfort in the things you did for her. I don't think you can really save anybody who doesn't want to be saved or have the strength to take the steps to save themselves. She had the freedom to choose. And I think she knew you were available to help.