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Originally Posted by smileygal
I don't know if I'd consider it bad judgement that she considered meeting the client...perhaps it was only for a few seconds or moments who knows....that is the human side of 'lure' of erotic counter transference I would think and why it can be so dangerous on both sides...Perhaps it was bad judgement to have shared this part with you yes, but but she sought consultation when she felt those strong desires (we can't control feelings) but then didn't choose to (but we can control what we do with those feelings) so made the right judgement call in the end imo.
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I agree. Based on what she told me, in the end, it doesn’t seem like she technically did anything unethical. I think she was comparing herself to ex T by showing me what ex-T “should have” done. That’s partly why I don’t know if my uncomfy feelings are valid. I guess it maybe just felt way too personal for her to disclose that attraction to me, especially since she’s married/has a family.