Thanks all for the all the support and the various opinions. Certainly gave me lots to think about.


We had a session on Saturday which began with her teeth in but then she took them out. (It was a Zoom session.) I guess her teeth aren't fitting right. She would prefer phone sessions when she doesn't have her teeth but had we started the Zoom meeting without them, I probably wouldn't have noticed. (I have some face blindness and am overwhelmingly not one to notice when something is different about another person.)


I didn't bring up the Selfie or how it made me feel. I guess I did send her a picture of the Ocean once in a "how I am doing" text. But it wasn't a selfie. I would feel weird if she had a selfie of me or if she looked at my facebook or whatever (though that is basically a portfolio of my cats) and saw a selfie of me. The conversation was pretty good except I don't know if she can really help me with SH. She asked me if I read any books on it which I have but I want to know what she says to do about it. So I'm not really sure if she can help me but I am beginning to think no one can help me. Ugh.


I noticed she doesn't use a lot of "sweet" language in person like calling me "hon" but that she mostly does that on text. I always call her by her name in text and not a nickname or anything. I did get to see one of her cats on the Zoom so that was nice. I've seen her dogs but not all of her cats. She has three. I just noticed a gigantic cat tree in her living room so I asked her about it.


Maybe I overreacted. It did sort of freak me out. It definitely felt like a boundary crossing but how would she know if I didn't tell her. (But I can never see myself actually telling her that!)


So I guess I'll view it as a once off and if it happens again I'll have to either leave her or let her know the selfies are a no go. But maybe it would be different had we been seeing each other longer. But at this stage in my therapy I have no use for a picture of her. I don't need a transitional object. Or anything like that.


I have a feeling her boundaries are pretty loose anyway with her clients. Just from what she has said in passing. So I'll have to decide if I can work with that.


Thank you everyone! HUGS if wanted, Kit