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Originally Posted by Pinny
Im so sorry youre experiencing such difficulty 
I dont think thats fair that she is spending your money.... unless she is spending it all on your kid?
I guess its difficult to know whats happened inside her head as it doesnt seem like she has told you. I would be very careful if I were you. Sending some sporadic "I love yous" to me sounds more like stringing along rather than actually being in love with the person. But as I said, its very difficult to know.
It sounds like you need to both have an open and honest conversation. |
Thanks for responding. Our last open and honest conversation was specifically about whether or not she loves me. My counselor suggested that maybe I'm not asking her the right question. Instead of asking her if she loves me or accepting her saying she loves me, maybe I should ask her if she is still IN LOVE with me. So I did. She didnt shy away from saying yes and she still wanted to work on the marriage. My issue is I dont see any effort. And I dont hear her say things that make me feel like coming home will happen anytime soon. For example, we were driving the other day and she told me she hoped she would get transferred to work at a school right across the street from her brothers neighborhood. It's under construction so I asked her when it would be done. She said next year!!! That's not the mindset of someone who is in love with me and wants to work on her marriage is it? Shouldnt she be thinking about moving back home with her husband by next year?