I don't think allowing the therapist to think things are different than they are or were makes sense. Giving a skewed or incomplete picture is a waste of time. I really can't imagine not making the therapist aware that the parenting I received had a negative impact. Regardless of how my parents are now. My issues don't make sense without that information. The past may be the past, but I think omission is usually evidence of the continued effect of abuse. It's like going to a dietician and not telling her you had an eating disorder but expecting her to understand why you're 600lbs if you eat healthy in the present.