This all sounds very, very red and flaggy to me.

I don’t see this going anywhere good and I’m going to try very hard to express myself without recourse to words like “moron” or “asshole” to describe this therapist.

“When did you realize you were gay?” is, as you so aptly noted, not a thing that culturally competent mental health professionals ask in AD 2022. I just want to validate your observation. Gay people don’t need this kind of excremental claptrap.

The story about her being attracted to her narcissistic client is horrifying. Not that she felt that way but that she shared it with you.

Like what else is there to say? Trying very hard not to say moron here. Let’s go with unskilled. Lacking in filter. A few tentacles shy of a full kraken.

With virtual therapy now so commonplace, could you widen your pool of potential candidates? In my experience, a bad therapist is many orders of magnitude worse than no therapist.

Good luck ❤️