I'm very hurt. Very hurt. PLUS, I'm glad now that I told my sister that I could not dog sit for her in April because guess what? She and our brother are going on vacation together with their families THAT WEEK.

To think if I hadn't logged into our mother's FB page to update it, and if I had agreed to dogsit (as I had done in the past for my sister), I wouldn't have found out that my sister and brother had been vacationing for years together with their families the week that I would dogsit for my sister.

I feel completely taken advantage of now. I can't believe how naive I've been all these years about my family.

Oh, and my sister of course got mad at me when I told her what I saw on our mother's FB page (reference from our brother about their upcoming April vacation with my sister and her family).

She got mad at me and proceeded to try to gaslight me, accusing me of snooping which is really her just being angry that I found out the truth. It's the same with her vacation abroad to visit her daughter. She wanted to go alone with her favorite cousin to visit her daughter and not have me around, so she gaslighted me to accuse me of being emotionally divisive and manipulative instead of just telling me the truth.

Can you see now why I have such bad anxiety? Instead of respecting my feelings and just telling me the truth, I'm lied to and gaslighted. And why? What's the reason?

I really don't get it. I just don't. Someone please explain this to me.