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Mar 03, 2022, 04:14 PM
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Desert Kitty hates titles
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Member Since: Jul 2008
Location: TARDIS
Posts: 12,640
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Originally Posted by rechu
I think what you are feeling is pretty common. Grief is not linear. I think CANDC's analogy of an onion is a good description.
I see you are in the US. Where I am it is summer, but I grew up in the US and January-February always seemed to be a gloomy time of year even if I was not dealing with other stressors. The holidays are over, the days are short, the weather is often bad and it can be hard to get out of the huse. I wouldn't be surprised if that was a factor too.
Hugs to you. I hope you're doing better soon.
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 I agree with Rechu. It's certainly not linear and it's as individual as you are as a person, how you grieve. There's no "supposed to" and even those so-called 5 stages of grief by Kubler-Ross (sp?) has been around for over 50 years and has been expanded.
The U.S doesn't have much in the way of many grief support groups; I think it's cultural. We don't talk openly about death here. Rechu is right, this time of the year is hard. It's not only right after the holidays but the days are short. (They are getting noticably longer now) It's also tax season. So many additional stressors, and Rechu is right that depending on the climate, it can be hard to get out. Literally!
I've lost so many people and am still grieving. I found out from a grief group that a delayed reaction isn't unusual at all. There can be so many distractions that one doesn't even have time for it to sink in. COVID broke out just a few months after I lost my dad.
Rose.....
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Originally Posted by East17
Your post really resonated with me.
Knowing what you should do but not feeling able to do it. Having the tools to help lift you up, but not feeling able to use them. Not having the motivation or energy to make the effort.
I'm in a similar place right now, though because of different circumstances.
Depression sucks. I hope you can find the strength within you to pull yourself out of the hole you are in.
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Me too. Your post resonated with me too. It's a Catch 22, that one has to make an effort to feel better. Yet one needs to feel better to make an effort. Everything takes way more effort than it used to.
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