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Originally Posted by AliceKate
It sounds like it wasn't 9 out of 10 for her. I do not intend to downplay what she has done, she is absolutely in the wrong here, and also considering what I will write next, it is her responsibility, not yours, to ensure she is herself. Perhaps she felt appropriated. Perhaps doing all those things together meant that she lost any notion of who she was without you, that all that she was and did was determined by who you are and what you want.
Again, it is of course not possible for you to notice that (if that's what the issue is), as she clearly didn't communicate it. It is her responsibility and her actions thereafter (i.e. leaving you and setting an ultimatum) place her clearly in the wrong. That being said, I've felt like doing what she did before (I never did just up and leave, but I have wanted to plenty of times).
ETA: If that is correct, you driving her to therapy may also be unbearable to her, as it is her that needs therapy and it is supposed to be her thing, not yours, too. May I suggest instead of driving her, could you help enable her to drive herself?
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Thank you for responding. Anything is possible but it would be hard for me to believe as she was always asking "when do you want to go run", "when do you want to go swim", "our race is only 2 weeks away, are you excited?" Hey honey, "lets go get sushi! "... and I was always 10p% supportive and ready to go. It was very organic and not forced. We were truly best friends. When we went to our races and competitions, we encouraged one another. She loved it. But she left 2 months ago and isnt back so maybe it wasnt all so special. Like I said she recently asked for therapy. She usually asks if I will go with her. She asked the other day if I'd go to her dentist appointment because she is terrified of dentists. So I took her. We talk and text all the time. She tells me she loves me. Even told me she is in love with me. Told me if I find a house where she is staying (her brothers) she would move back. Told me she needs a therapist and is very depressed and doesnt feel like herself. None of this makes sense to me. How thing can change so drastically in an instant.