IDK how I feel about this SP. That actually sounds like a lovely memory to me. If there was never any hugging or kindness or warmth, that’s an issue. But children do not necessarily need their parents to play with them. They do need love, affection, encouragement and safety.

Playing quietly in a safe, cozy space in the presence of your parent while they are working is beautiful. It is how any adult with little children gets anything done without additional childcare or a screen. It is quality imaginative play for the child and they have the security of knowing their attachment person is right there.

To this day, one of my favourite things is to work quietly alongside someone I love while that person is engaged in their own activity. This is an introvert’s idea of bliss (and maybe an extrovert’s idea of hell, IDK, maybe L is an extrovert?)

I know your question is about trauma work. I think its really important in exploring a traumatic childhood not to undermine the lovely parts if there were any. The peaceful moments of quiet connection are just as much a part of you as the pain and missed connections.