I am guessing you already have questions about the wisdom of dating this person if you are titling it as having "messed up."

If you believe this relationship is in error in judgment, maybe it is exactly the topic you need to be discussing with your therapist so you can decide if and how to proceed to maintain your own safety -- not just physical but also mental.

Sometimes we dread the conversations most that we know we force us to face some harsh realities, but those are the important conversations.