I've worried about my therapist judging me for things I've done on multiple occasions. In fact, one of my texts to a former T about something that had just happened was something like, "I'm worried you'll be disgusted by me and never view me the same way again." That turned out to be OK. And I've prefaced things with my current T saying, "I'm concerned this will change your opinion of me." The most recent time, he said he's known me for more than 4 years, and he thinks his opinion of me is fairly set. And it didn't seem to affect how he is toward me.

In each case, it had more to do with my own opinion of myself. I felt bad about what I'd done or how I'd acted, so I assumed the T would as well. So the important thing to explore was my own opinions and feelings about myself. (It also comes into play when I worry about others in my life judging me.)

I think it can help to share your fears before telling your T what happened. Like, "I'm worried you're going to judge me or have a bad opinion of me." And see what they say. Also, if you are worried they will tell you to end the relationship, you could start by something like, "I've made up my mind on this and don't want you to tell me to end the relationship. I just want to talk to you about it." Ideally, they would let you talk through it without pressing their own views on you.

However, if she does say that you should stop seeing him, it would most likely be coming from a place of caring and concern, rather than judgment. So try to keep that in mind.

Stay safe.