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Originally Posted by AliceKate
Her behaviour indeed doesn't add up to her written and spoken declarations. Is there a specific reason she wants to move to the same area as her brother? Aside from liking him I mean?
I'm sorry she is putting you through this. I do agree with some of the others that you should set a limit of your financial support and emotional involvement if she keeps this up. Maybe you can set a soft limit to yourself, assuming to reduce both when she hasn't returned in, say, 4 month. Half a year is plenty of time...
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She went to her brothers because she doesnt get along with anyone else in her family really. None of this makes any sense. We have a beautiful home. Her brothers home is a wreck. Terrible conditions. She lives in one of the rooms. She says now her brother screams and curses at her kids (my stepkids) like he is their father which I always played with and loved them. Her brother and his wife are abusive to one another scream and yell and fight and cheat on one another. My wife and I share my son.. 1 week with me, 1 week with her... This is where my wife left me to go stay. Her and I never fought like this. Again, she always told people how we almost never argued and fought. I think my wife has lost her mind. She still lives happy off of my bank account so she is not living the rough life yet. But I spoil her all the time. Have always spoiled her and treated her with love and i feel like she doesnt appreciate me anymore. I feel like she isnt helping me fix our marriage. Like you say, she is saying the words but I dont see the action. She tells me about how much she likes her job and the city she lives in now which makes me feel like she has moved on. She never talks about missing me and us getting back together. But when I ask her she says she is still in love with me and wants to work on us. But I dont see any effort. If I tell her I love you, she says it back... but if I dont say it, she wont. I feel like I need to go away and let her experience life without me. If she really loves me, then she will come back and change all by herself. Instead of me continuing to put in 300% and feeling disappointed everyday because I get 50% back from her.
What do you think? Or do you still think give it a few more months?