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Originally Posted by eskielover
Now when I get angry I step back & think about the REAL CAUSE of my anger, analyze that & then figure out what steps I need to take to deal with what is actually the cause (may not even be related to what caused that feeling of anger). Then I take action needed to resolve the cause & not respond in anger to what had just brought up that emotion. Have found anger is like an ice berg. What is under the surface is the REAL problem to deal with cause that is what will really sink your ship
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To add to this anger is a secondary emotion that generally masks whatever emotion you don't want to feel at the time. Could be anything. Fear, anxiety, abandonment, frustration, sadness, etc.
I'm quick to anger because I'm more comfortable with it than other emotions. It's easier to get angry and punch holes in the wall than sit and think about how no one is answering my texts or how incompetent in certain areas I am (common things that happen to me).
That being said, I typically don't try and control my thoughts when I'm angry. I just try to physically get it out. I used to get violent, but now I'm more a "punch the mattress and scream into the pillow gal."