Thanks so much for all the answers.
The thing is I keep feeling like maybe it's something in my communication and then that makes me feel really crappy, but I am realising that it can't be that. Other than, me trying to ask again later if they ignore me. And then I get so frustrated and upset. So I decided now that I will just never ask more than once. I have to do something different if they still ignore it when I ask again. I just don't know what that "something different" would be. It would have to be situation dependent too of course. But some general guidelines would help, if anyone has any suggestions or tips. I'm asking for tips because I always feel so very upset now because these things have repeated far too many times now. So I can't think very well about it anymore when it happens.
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Boyfriend ignoring you… what happened with that relationship? Or was bf a best friend rather than a boyfriend? I hope it wasn’t your money he was wiring. How did he explain why is he ignoring you?
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Boyfriend. He never explained it......I did ask but no..... We are still together. I tried to observe more lately and I noticed he doesn't answer a lot of questions of mine actually. Even when it's pretty important stuff. Like I asked about some of his future plans recently. That too went ignored.... Or if I say how I feel about something he doesn't comment or respond to that either.
And yes I made 10000% sure that it didn't seem like "naggy" or anything like that when I asked about those future plans. I made totally sure that I was in a relaxed mindset when I asked.
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The guy who wasn’t responding to you messaging him repeatedly, how did he explain why he isn’t responding? What made you repeatedly contacting him even though he wasn’t responding?
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He didn't explain either..... I did ask why but he didn't explain. What made me repeatedly try, well I just didn't understand what the heck is going on, is why. But that's where I now decided that I won't ever repeatedly try again, I'd have to do a completely different response.
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Some people are too cowardly and don’t want to be direct in their communication that they might want to limit or stop the friendship/relationship. So instead they ghost in hopes you get the message. That’s what comes to mind
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Whenever this happens, it's not really about the relationship itself, I don't think. For example my bf actually wants to marry me. More like about the topics themselves, or some overall manipulation of managing my expectations or passive aggression or I don't know what.
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Unsure about your aunt. For whatever reason she was making plans with your brother separate from you. It would be fine if she met with you two separately or didn't even meet with you if that’s what she wanted but again she was cowardly about it
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I can't tell if she was going to try and meet me some days after my brother or something. I'll never know now lol, but yeah something is fishy about it. She may have been cowardly about the topic of the email, yeah. She basically brought up some issue in email and I responded to that and that's when she stopped responding.
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But with boyfriends and so called friends, if they ignore and ghost you, move on and don’t waste your time. Don’t continue messaging. Guessing why they ignore you is a waste of time
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I do need to see more clearly, so I wanted to get ideas on how this stuff usually goes.
It's also kinda awkward if I've been getting along with someone pretty well or we had some mutual cooperation about something (I don't mean business), and then they start pulling this off. Awkward as in can I really just cut them off right away?