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To add to this anger is a secondary emotion that generally masks whatever emotion you don't want to feel at the time. Could be anything. Fear, anxiety, abandonment, frustration, sadness, etc.
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Actually no. Anger is as much a primary emotion as other primary emotions i.e. the direct reactions to the original cause. Secondary emotions are the reactions on top of the primary emotions. The point is that anger is just as often a primary emotion as any other emotion can be a primary emotion. It's a common misconception that anger can be a secondary emotion only. Any emotion can mask any other emotion, anger is not special in this regard.
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I'm quick to anger because I'm more comfortable with it than other emotions. It's easier to get angry and punch holes in the wall than sit and think about how no one is answering my texts or how incompetent in certain areas I am (common things that happen to me).
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Naturally, anyone would feel better letting some anger out than having to think really degrading, and of course, untrue thoughts as in Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs, check out CBT).
Frankly, what's the point of thinking about how lonely you are with "no one" ever answering your texts, or about how incompetent you are. No point. Process the feelings, then be ready to find a solution and move on. Don't let yourself get tricked with these ANTs.