I'd say trust your gut. If it's not working out with this T, don't waste anymore time on her.

I did that with a few Ts including ex-T. We were always having problems, but she had me believing that it was my fault. Plus with my attachment, I stayed.

I didn't have many criteria for a T. I guess my only criteria I had was allowing hugs and being female. I almost worked with a male T when T went on maternity leave, but he felt I would do better with L. And I was instantly attached to her.

I also have realized that pictures help, but don't tell the full story of a person. I thought ex-T looked perfect for me, but she wasn't. And if I saw the pictures of some of my other Ts, I don't think I would have chosen them.

I think you can gauge better by their voice and what they say...or if you are able to, be with them in-person. I know with L, her voice was very soothing and she had a lot of expression in her fluctuations. Also, the very first thing she said to me, she asked me how I was feeling. I instantly felt like she actually cared about my situation, not just taking me on because I got switched to her.

Otherwise, yes, I just wing it.