I find it interesting that you considered someone you dated for three weeks a boyfriend and looked at it as actual relationship. And you even needed healing after that ended. 3 weeks into it should be just getting to know someone a bit not actual deep involvement with someone. 3 weeks is nothing.

Do you tend to attach to people very fast and have hard time letting go? like this current guy doesn’t even live in the same country snd wouldn’t tell you his plans but you plan couples counseling and marriage. Do you get emotionally attached before you look deeper into if these are even right people for you?

I don’t think if matters “why” he ignores you. The point is that he does. Look into actions. His actions say enough without trying to understand “why”. You’ll never know why. All you can know is why you want a guy like this? It’s not how men in love with their partners and committed to their partners act. Not at all.