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Old Mar 13, 2022, 07:02 PM
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Originally Posted by InkyBooky View Post
Yes. This was exactly my experience with my Ex-T.

My Ex-T decided to stay permanently and entirely virtual when most other therapists were starting to offer some limited in-person sessions again. She had always used a shared office space just three days a week- and all the other therapists sharing the space had returned. I was so eager to get back to in-person (which she knew) so it was quite surprising when she just sprung it on me one day that she was never going back to in-person sessions....

Being a PhD trauma therapist/psychologist she had previously told me that research showed in-person was considered to be best for high risk clients, deep trauma work and EMDR. However, once she made the choice to stay online indefinitely she then tried to tell me that Zoom worked just fine for therapy and most of her clients were fine with it.

Well, not in my experience. Her quality as a therapist had deteriorated over Zoom and I was truly needing to get back to in-person where my sessions felt much more grounded, safe, and attuned.

At the end of the day she didn't care what I (and probably others) needed. At least not enough to find an office space for even one day per week. She said it was easier and cheaper for her to work from home and her clients could basically take it or leave it.

I was incredibly attached and I think she was shocked when I told her I was going to find a new therapist. She just expected me to go along with whatever she said.

My new therapist is amazing. She allows the option of in-person or online depending on the client's needs. All in all things worked out, but my Ex-T really let me down on that one. Especially the way she handled it- sort of making me feel like a jerk for even wanting/needing in-person again one day.
This one is hard. I'm really sorry. This is part of why I think deep therapy should not be allowed with deep attachment in there. Because, you can't really pay with money for deep attachment. As soon as money starts talking it's going to create all this mess. I just view it as really unprofessional for a therapist to even allow one-sided deep, strong attachment in therapy. Let alone capitalising on that....some of them I'm sure do do that. Or even when it just comes to, oh the therapist would like to save some money, understandable, but then why would they even allow the attachment to go this far in the first place?! Just not going to be possible to keep it truly safe and real.
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InkyBooky, SlumberKitty
Thanks for this!
InkyBooky