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not to cast blame, but from anything i can figure out those who blame and scapegoat are simply unable to accept their own responsibility for how things are? one of my step-mothers was a scapegoater... she was just angry it seemed to me all the time, needed someplace to vent constantly, so, i guess i was the nearest weakest object?

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Not - in my case...... as I was a very Happy Girl and it was my Family that placed this Title upon me so they would not have to face their own issues and admit the family problems...... as my T put it - it was easier for them to blame me (give me the power) than to face themselves in the mirror.

There is a difference in those that accept the Scapegoat Role and those that have it bestowed upon them - think about it.



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eyah Rhapsody, you pushed back.. i think thats a brave move for one to do when highly outnumbered but i think i catch your meaning that it is either push back at times, or be pushed over.... as a child i told my older and massively larger step brother i wouldnt be his doormat, he cried.... how amazed i was....

not that making people cry is great either, so, a person of conscience is really stuck sometimes, but in my case, it was a moment of positioning within the family and i was not going to be the scapegoat among the kids... with step-mom, the dynamics were so different and i just tried to persevere... for a long time i thought about vengeance, but i fought that very poisonous thinking and have since chosen to let go... step-mom remains the same to this day... what a cold, callous, lonely world she lives in ...

best to all