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Old May 25, 2008, 01:25 PM
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I don't think of projection and scapegoating as being quite the same thing.

Projection usually just confuses me because I know it's not mine and it doesn't "make sense". It's a non-sequitur of sorts. As soon as I learned to recognize double-binds ("Have you quit beating your wife?" - "yes" means you use to beat her, "no" means you're still beating her; there's no way to be innocent, to have never been beating her in the first place); projection wasn't difficult to shake my head and walk away from or shrug and look confused, etc.

Scape goating also doesn't make much sense but can be a bit more difficult because of the number of people behind it; you got the whole village trying to drive you over the cliff for their own sins, you need to get out of that particular village!

I don't get scape goated because my own character, honesty, sense of self, etc. doesn't make it possible. I don't accept it and I'm no "fun" to have it put upon me because I don't play/accept it. It reminds me of the adage, "defeat isn't bitter if you don't swallow it". Just going with the flow, not fighting but shrugging and acting a bit "confused" and doing your own thing takes all the purpose out of tryng to use you, for others. I very much know who I am now (after a million years of therapy) so it's nearly impossible to make me look like/seem to be someone/something else.
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