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Perna said:
I don't think of projection and scapegoating as being quite the same thing.

Projection usually just confuses me because I know it's not mine and it doesn't "make sense". It's a non-sequitur of sorts. As soon as I learned to recognize double-binds ("Have you quit beating your wife?" - "yes" means you use to beat her, "no" means you're still beating her; there's no way to be innocent, to have never been beating her in the first place); projection wasn't difficult to shake my head and walk away from or shrug and look confused, etc.

Scape goating also doesn't make much sense but can be a bit more difficult because of the number of people behind it; you got the whole village trying to drive you over the cliff for their own sins, you need to get out of that particular village!

I don't get scape goated because my own character, honesty, sense of self, etc. doesn't make it possible. I don't accept it and I'm no "fun" to have it put upon me because I don't play/accept it. It reminds me of the adage, "defeat isn't bitter if you don't swallow it". Just going with the flow, not fighting but shrugging and acting a bit "confused" and doing your own thing takes all the purpose out of tryng to use you, for others. I very much know who I am now (after a million years of therapy) so it's nearly impossible to make me look like/seem to be someone/something else.

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Thanks and to all who replied, so many people here are very insightful

(it seems to me theres little point in judging or assessing if the whole picture is scewed... for any number of ..... reasons)