Interesting post Fuzzybear.

As a child I was the scape-goat. I was blamed by my Mother for 'letting' my step-father abuse me. My Mother blamed me for her self-harming. My Mother blamed me for making her an alcoholic. 'Everything' was my fault. As a child I believed all this. These grown-ups were telling me I'm worthless etc. so it must be true? It's only as an adult with extensive therapy that I can see who really was to blame, but I can understand now that they had huge problems. As an adult I can learn to recognize when an old parent-tape is playing and realize that I am ok now.

As far as projection goes. I think to some extent we all do it. If you are feeling rotten about yourself we can think everyone else is rotten to. Like Eric Bernes 'I'm not ok... your'e not ok' or I'm ok, your ok' I think it is something we all need to work on. And reflect on situations.