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Originally Posted by susannahsays
I think in your place, I would also be hesitant because I would feel unsure if I trusted that this time his boundaries accurately reflect what he can handle. I mean since he didn't realize until it was too late before and that resulted in harm to you both. My instinct to withdraw to protect myself would be really activated.
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I agree with you. I think he is worried about me feeling abandoned, so I think he is offering more than he is comfortable with. I want him to recover. I don't want to make him worse. I always said, I don't need to worry about his boundaries, if he can't do something he won't offer. But this has shaken my belief in his ability to do that.