The "the have you ever been" thread brought forward a problem I am having right now. I have worked really hard to stop seeing in Black and White, to see the grey in the situation. This is a good thing I believe BUT in my current situation it has raised a big problem. My husband cheated on me, he was a jerk pure and simple, tearing me down to make the excuse for his behavior. I stood firm and didn't allow him to do it using my anger as my ally instead of the enemy it was. This was a year and a half ago. Now, with effort I have focused on seeing both sides of the issue so that I can grow within myself. The Problem is, now I can't maintain the anger I had about what he did. In many ways this would be good BUT he is just as sick as me probaby sicker since I have worked so hard on healing myself so it would be STUPID for me to allow him back into my life. But he is comfortable and when he is living elsewhere it is easy to ignore the things that really hurt because they are not always rubbing up against me. Ya know what I mean?
Zen