I don't want to sound like an apologist for therapists and I agree with what other posters have written. I think therapists can act in unethical and harmful ways. However, I find it useful to consider the difference between what is hurtful/difficult/frightened and what constitutes re-traumatising. For example, when your sessions end, does your therapist leave you in a grand scale sense or does she end the session to return again? Even in the instance of her ending your work with her because she is outside of her competence, she is behaving with your best interests at heart and is responding in a safe, adult way.

None of this is to say that the relationship isn't painful and hard. It is. But it can also be showing you different ways to respond to painful situations - like getting angry with her but also being able to speak to her about it.

I flip in and out of believing what I have written above, depending on how I feel about my therapist, whether I am trusting her, accepting her care, and so on. It's not easy.