My issue is that the idea makes neat sense in theory, but how do I know it's actually that way in reality? What is the guarantee that the process really works like this? These are real questions, I mean, if you or anyone feels like adding something I'd be really interested. I doubt there are any guarantees or clear guidelines for this, but I'm interested anyhow

I'm also saying all this because I did read an analogy recently about how picking on the wound is no good, and to properly heal it that needs to be avoided. Unfortunately I forget the rest of the analogy about what works for healing it instead of picking on it and reopening it all the time….



…You're calling this a process. Does the process have a start, a middle and an end? Do you have a way to know where you are in the process at a given moment here and now? I'm interested if you or anyone else can say more on it. Again I doubt there is really an answer but I'm just throwing it out here if anyone wants to engage this topic (if not too off topic for OP!).