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Originally Posted by FeelingLost78
The making things worse part I’m not so clear on exactly what he meant by that. You said in your comment that my apologizing and telling him I love him was making things worse. Did he mean that, by saying it, or did he mean the fact I was drunk making things worse. I didn’t tell him in my messages that I was drunk, but I think it was pretty obvious that it was a drunk text.
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I only saw this now. So OK, my read of the situation going by your initial post was that he saw you as all over the place with your emotions, apologising and saying how you are just depressed and you love him and all that, so in my read it's like he couldn't handle your emotions and his own emotions either. He got really insecure and irrational as a result.
That's btw why his treatment of you wasn't actually about "getting tough", it was anything but tough, it was more like really emotionally reactive with all the blocking and insults.
If he was to "get tough" like he realises he doesn't actually want you in his life for whatever reason and needs to end this relationship, he would still be able to act rational and treat you in a decent way when breaking up with you, since you did nothing to try and harm him in any way.
That's toughness to me, if a man is able to act rational and not get overwhelmed, irrational and reactive - irrational, where he feels the need to take out his emotions on others while calling others irrational - but simply makes the tough decisions and takes action on them while remaining calm and collected and focused.