You can ask him whatever you want. You don’t need anyone’s permission. But the very fact that you ask total strangers if you should ask your boyfriend questions, tells me that this is doomed. I can ask my husband whatever I want without worrying about it. I dated men whom I was not feeling as free to ask questions. And that’s why they are exes and he is my husband. If you keep second guessing your every move, it’s a sign that this isn’t a good arrangement .

The very fact that he isn’t clear about his intentions now and in the past tells you that he isn’t a good boyfriend. Him not being clear makes it pretty clear that this isn’t a good relationship (no pun intended)

Plus why do you need to ask HIM if things are ok. Do you make any type of observation of this relationship on your own? Why do you need him to tell you? It’s pretty obvious things are NOT ok as he didn’t even tell you he came back and he keeps you blocked. Do you think it’s ok and you need him to confirm? In what books is this ok? Things obviously are not ok. Take your life in your own hands.