Dear T,
I admit that it bothers me that you said you have in the past contacted clients who have terminated over what seemed like a misunderstanding and offered for them to come in for a free session to talk it through. When I terminated a few years ago, you never reached out to me (though maybe more time would have been needed beyond a couple weeks?), and you charged me extra for your painful emails. I am trying very hard not to think about that, as we're in a good place in our relationship now and generally have been since I returned. So there's no point, right?

I suppose maybe it was also very clear to you that I was done (well, for then), and we *did* try to talk it through in that last session. So maybe it seemed like it would have been pointless to invite me back in? Maybe this is more for clients who are just like, "Screw you, I'm done" and storm out mid-session, without really trying to talk it through?

I would like to believe if I left again under similar circumstances, you'd reach out to me, even just one time, even just to say "You're welcome to come back in and talk things through," even if you still charged me. I mean, ideally, I wouldn't leave under such circumstances, that it would be due to my feeling done with therapy in general (or needing an extended break) or my feeling like I need a temporary or permanent change in therapist/therapy style or something like your retiring or moving...or no longer practicing for some other reason, like illness or...worse--though I hope that we could come to some sort of natural end before that would happen, or at least to have some level of closure before I head elsewhere.

Maybe this is something we need to talk about more, though probably not Wednesday, since you'll be heading out of town the next day, and I wouldn't want to email you while you're away. Maybe I just need some time to see if this all settles down in my head. Plus, maybe it's only been more recently that you would have emailed a client who left? Or maybe you just trusted that if I wanted to come back, I'd let you know, and you were trying to give me autonomy that some others in my life (see: my mother) perhaps have not given me?

Love,
LT