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Old Mar 22, 2022, 06:48 AM
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Originally Posted by FeelingLost78 View Post
It’s not that I’m not taking advice or listening and I really appreciate everyone’s insight. It’s that other than this stunt of blocking me, he is a good guy. We’ve been through a lot together. I also know that having space doesn’t necessarily equal a breakup. If he wanted that, I know he would have said so. He is keeping me blocked. He reached out this morning and sent a message to my spare phone saying, “We do have a lot in common.” Not sure why he’d say that. He also said, “I’m annoyed at you.” I responded to him with, “I know you are and you have every right to be. I did some stuff lately that annoyed you. I’m sorry for that. I won’t do those things again. I can promise you that. Are you ready to talk about things?” He responded with, “I’m not mad, though.” Then I said, “I’m glad you’re not mad at me. That makes me feel a little better.” I then said, “keep telling me your thoughts and feelings so I can better understand where you’re at.” I am trying to be supportive to him, at the same time, I am mad at him for blocking me. I don’t know if I should tell him, or wait for him to reach out again, if he does. I really am not sure why he mentioned we have a lot in common. Not sure what that has to do with anything.

I agree his blocking behavior was way out of line. It makes a bit of sense now that he said he’s annoyed at me. I knew he was, but I wanted to hear it from him and I did. Even still, blocking someone like that is way extreme behavior that I’m not happy about. I will tell him, but now isn’t the right time.
This is a toxic dynamic going on right now - do you not see that? Blocking but still talking, stringing you along and giving you mixed messages? None of this is what a healthy normal relationship looks like. You're wrapped up in a toxic dance with this man, and until you see that it's unhealthy and not normal, you will continue to feed into and play his games.
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Last edited by Have Hope; Mar 22, 2022 at 08:16 AM.
Thanks for this!
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