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Mar 22, 2022 at 09:28 PM
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Originally Posted by jhendershott
I am going to see how it goes but I told him flat out that I am going to be very firm with my boundaries so if it upset him I'm sorry but I'm not longer holding my tongue to save his feelings while I feel there is a disregard of mine.
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The hardest thing for me to do is not lash out when my boundaries are not obeyed. But getting angry only makes me feel worse. So I am setting boundaries for myself too. When I feel anger arising, I put up a stop sign in my mind and start to contemplate what happened last time I went into this emotional discharge. It usually made me totally miserable so I refrain. It does not make what the other person does right, but giving myself this space can help me to deal with enforcing the boundaries calmly and without anger. It is a constant experiment, a work in progress but the early signs are promising. I feel better and can deal calmly with the person most of the time lol. @CANDC
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