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Originally Posted by divine1966
If you have a professional demanding job, then not receiving reply to work email is very detrimental as one cannot complete an important timely work task/someone might not get proper treatment/someone might even get hurt. I’d say it is not easy at all and actually is way more serious than not getting a text from a date or whoever else.
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Ok well I meant I personally find it easier because emotions don't get in the way for me there. With work stuff I do enjoy finding solutions, with intimate relationships it's just not like that for me, I plain do not enjoy having to solve problems in them.
By the way I would NOT compare what's more serious or less serious re: the personal and the impersonal areas of life. For me it's plenty serious how I was taken advantage of before in a close relationship. It was detrimental in several ways for me and I will not compare that to hypothetical work situations. Completely different things. Family and work are also completely different and neither is less important than the other.
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I’d say if you are repeatedly ignored by someone you are dating, it’s understandably upsetting. Anyone would be badly effected. It’s not clear though why would you want to date someone who repeatedly ignores you.
Why not choose partners who don’t do that? Most people don’t ignore their partners. It’s not a common behavior. I would suggest not to pursue men who ignore you.
Relationship is a choice. Choose wisely
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These people (long term romantic relationship or close friendship) did not start out by advertising how they really are. The person that took advantage of me managed to do so by way of dishonest manipulation. All that is a long story though.
I understand that one has the choice to go for a relationship etc., but I do find close relationships are really complex even when the other person isn't trying to manipulate you in a self-serving way, and that complexity is natural too ofcourse. I still find dealing with work related problems easier tho. That's just me. So in theory yes I agree that you choose the relationships, in practice the implementation can take lots of effort if you take it seriously and don't want to just drift along in your relationships.