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Originally Posted by Etcetera1
One more post I'd like to add....
Without knowing more on the overall relationship itself, I can't tell how that text would be read by most people if they were in the boyfriend's place, but reading it as an outsider with no more information, I don't see it as nasty.
I see it as clear as in, you're talking about how you're scared having trouble dealing with the health issue and so you want to be alone for now. I will say the being alone part is not 100% clear but to me it would just come off like, finding it hard to deal with it so needing to be alone to try and endure through it. I have no idea if you had that in mind though.
Was it this or did you have some need to push him away when drunk? I mean, I didn't read it like that because you said in it that you feel scared. So it did not sound angry or impatient to me overall but overwhelmed with the stress and anxiety instead.
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But this is exactly why we need to talk about this, because I wasn’t pushing him away. It’s exactly as you described it. I wasn’t dumping him. I basically said in that message, “I need to be alone. I can’t deal with this eye issue. Leave me alone.” It may have come across to him as being rude and pushing him away, but that’s quite different than dumping him. It bothers me that he took it that way.