Having dealt with someone who did the same thing to me (complain about you wanting space then asking for space and then being annoyed by you giving space), he is trying to make you feel a certain way by pushing you further away to cause you distress.
As for the book, try sending a message that you would like to have the book to bring you comfort during your eye surgery and appointments. If you are blocked completely on all communication platforms, have a mutual friend ask on your behalf.