I think I understand what you are going through; my stepson is extremely tall and gets gawks and rude questions everywhere he goes and I have a good friend who is quadriplegic so I understand about the chair thing too.

People don't understand the multitude of how many there are, it's not just "them" but everyone doing it and that adds up. They don't think. My son had to report a bank teller to her boss because she was asking him about his height and making gawking, personal comments instead of just conducting his business he needed done!

It really has to be a tough situation. I'd be tempted to think up some not very nice, pointed comments. I always love Gary, my quadriplegic friend's humor, he has a good line, "Don't make me get up out of this chair!"