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Originally Posted by Discombobulated
I don’t have a diagnosis, but I score high on AQ test and I do have traits consistent with some aspects of autism.
Yes I was bullied in high school, and I think that will stay with me always although in some ways it gave me a deeper understanding of others suffering/injustices.
My own thoughts are that AS people are often naive about others intentions, and that can make them a target. Yes absolutely it’s been my experience that girls were so much more adept at cruelty, and you’re probably right Azul about competitiveness. I think at least one of my bullies came from an abusive home too. The saddest thing was I just wanted her to like me - and she would use that sometimes by pretending she was my friend only to switch. Even now I remember the pain of just wanting to be liked/fit in, but I never did fit in the mainstream and even now only have a small group of friends.
Can I ask do you ask this question for a reason? I think you wrote your nephew is AS? Is he doing okay?
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The thread came from a sad event that happened here in Spain a few months ago. A young guy, Samuel, a brilliant guy, a creative guy, a rapper, was stabbed under a tunnel by a Latin gang. Samuel died because of the stab wounds.
The thing is that he had Asperger’s syndrome and it seems “the reason” for his homicide was a misunderstanding between him and a member of this gang. A misunderstanding that had to do with his condition. You know, these people have no filters, they find hard to socially understand others.
I knew of this event through TV and a podcast where topics like these, are deeply analysed and the son of the person who hosts this podcast happens to be a person with the syndrome. He talked about the terrible experiences he suffered at school and secondary education about bullying.
As I’m a teacher I was always concerned about bullying in general, and in this case, as my nephew was diagnosed with AS, I was wondering how much society knows about this syndrome and how much it can be target of bullying.
Of course, I wonder up to which point my nephew feels apart from others in school and if he is treat in a different way.
I know how sensitive he is and I see he sometimes feels excluded even when he’s with us. I can see it in his face. I rapidly approach to him and play or tell him something to show how much I love him and distract him by asking him to help me or bringing up a topic I know he’s interested in.
I know how cruel people can be, especially the ignorant ones and those who lack of empathy.
It seems my nephew is going pretty well so far. He turned 11 some days ago. He’s lucky because he has loving parents and family.
You never told me about your traits of autism. Is it the same as me, lack of social skills because of social anxiety or lack of self-confidence?
I’m very sorry that you were bullied. There’s no reason for a kid suffering because others mess with him/her or ignore him/her.
I have seen so much in the school I’ve worked in.
Any stupid reason such as, race, shyness, physical appearance, sex orientation, place of origin, etc. whatever may spark hate and bullying from others.
I have had kids called terrorists only because they were muslins.