Ok well I meant I personally find it easier because emotions don't get in the way for me there. With work stuff I do enjoy finding solutions, with intimate relationships it's just not like that for me, I plain do not enjoy having to solve problems in them.

By the way I would NOT compare what's more serious or less serious re: the personal and the impersonal areas of life. For me it's plenty serious how I was taken advantage of before in a close relationship. It was detrimental in several ways for me and I will not compare that to hypothetical work situations. Completely different things. Family and work are also completely different and neither is less important than the other.



These people (long term romantic relationship or close friendship) did not start out by advertising how they really are. The person that took advantage of me managed to do so by way of dishonest manipulation. All that is a long story though.

I understand that one has the choice to go for a relationship etc., but I do find close relationships are really complex even when the other person isn't trying to manipulate you in a self-serving way, and that complexity is natural too ofcourse. I still find dealing with work related problems easier tho. That's just me. So in theory yes I agree that you choose the relationships, in practice the implementation can take lots of effort if you take it seriously and don't want to just drift along in your relationships.