I mean..... I don't care to try and pathologise it if I feel affected by being repeatedly ignored, where I was ignored many times in the past by someone and then it turns out that person was trying to just take advantage of me.

I would suggest that if you hear about someone's feeling bad about something, don't start with pathologising and thinking of various mental disorders. It's an unhelpful approach in most cases.



With work emails it's easy....it's impersonal, why take it personally. That's how I think about that kind of thing.

About your partner, I would not attempt to chat with him in texts during working hours. If it's some important practical issue that needs to be attended to or whatever, wait until he's off work and notify him then. And if it's actually some catastrophy that needs immediate attention, there are other, more effective ways to inform him.