It really IS a lot of work....for me at least. Though I do think the younger posters on this thread, whether single or pondering singlehood, would be more prone to meet someone. I've dated men whose adult children were very vigilant about the dad's finances and hovered like hawks, also con artists and stalkers. I lost my heart to the last attempt and was told coldly that he "wasn't in love with me." Also, as I've aged, had the hard knocks, I"ve become more discerning...a good thing. It's good to be skeptical, in my case, at least, since prior to this I was too naive!
Lastly, I think I've been wallowing in some self-pity here by posting this, and have taken stock of all the good in my life....just finishing my MA in Art, a snug, artsy home, a good job (though it's hell right now with the middle schoolers!) that I'm lucky to have despite the stress, and lovely twin grandsons in KY. My summer is free for the first time in 4 years of summer school and deadlines and projects. I intend to enjoy it...solo!
Love
Patty