Dear T,

Honestly, I'm confused. If someone is dependable, then they are seen as very reliable and that is a good thing. That people can depend on them. Depending on someone is seen as something we all do day in, day out, and is something that is just seen as a part of life. So where does it differ, depending to being dependent on?

I depended on K. Sure I did, after trust was built. I wouldnt say I was dependent on her, in your sense of the word though. But I did depend on her. I had to learn that I could depend on another human being. I had to somehow learn that other people can be relied on, to act how you think they will, to do what they say they will, to be kind, to be human. Of course people mess up, I know that. Sometimes things don't go right.

I just feel like your opinion of the work that we did is getting in the way here and I dislike the fact that I am paying you to iron out your opinions. Because that is all they are. Opinions. As I said in session, you don't know me. You don't know me and you never really will. You certainly don't know K and you absolutely never will, so please don't judge something you don't understand.

You asked me, can you understand and still disagree. Yes, on some things, for sure. But not this, because by you disagreeing it means you are either saying I am wrong in that it didn't help, or you are disapproving of the way that we did it. That's what it feels like. That you are disapproving, and it's that which I don't like.

You are entitled to your own opinions, absolutely. But when someone is telling you that this aspect of the work had a major possitive impact on them I'm not sure why you would hold on to that? It seems very closed minded to me.

However, I'm not sure that it matters, because I certainly don't want that from you, so I guess the best way forwards is (if you still feel you disagree or disapprove) to keep your opinion out of my time, please.