Also it's like, it's not just "when we had disagreements". This isn't a normal disagreement, this is when he gets upset over something that most people wouldn't have a problem with, or even if they have a problem with it, they have no problem communicating about it.

It's good you feel your rights, that you deserve good things, and please do not let yourself forget about your rights. His continued treatment of you like this could lead there in the long run, you forgetting your rights and completely giving in and letting everything happen on his terms, if you let it go on like this.

But, to me it sounded like you've already been influenced by his manipulative pressure before, like, when you were instantly apologising when he got upset in an unreasonable way. So that's damage resulting from the relationship, which is one reason why it's not a good idea to continue it, as it's going to take time and effort to reverse and heal the already existing damage too.

(Though with the book I get it that maybe you are just hoping that you could still be with him so maybe you are like, why ask for it back while you two could still be together?)

All in all, I would say, in this case, if he doesn't let you know if you two are together, while he is obviously aware that you'd like to know, that's a manipulation already. You got very affected by it already. And the one way you can set yourself free from this crazy pressure is if you simply go on with living your own life. Put all this on the backburner, maybe eventually you'll decide you don't want to be with him either.