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Originally Posted by Etcetera1
Sounds like the blocking really affects you a lot. I used to feel that way when I was being ignored (not blocked, just ignored for long times). Please try and figure out how to not get affected by it anymore because it's where you become open to his manipulative influence, it's like a sort of pressure that will take much effort to not give in to and if you resist giving in to the pressure, you will have to deal with a lot of strong emotions of yours which is exhausting, and if you give in to it, then it just gets worse as that means you are doing his bidding from that point on. And since you mention you've had him block you several times before, all this dynamic just gets worse.
Just my experience of how it is, anyway. I hope this helps some.
That doesn't sound good at all to me tbh (again see above). Him blocking you repeatedly, that's not a good relationship AT ALL! I really thought based on your earlier post that it was good and he was just doing out of character behaviour but then it became clear that this isn't the case. This isn't out of character for him. This is unfortunately who he is.
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The thing I am needing to know is whether or not we’re broken up. I need to know where things stand with us. Stonewalling and ghosting is never the right way to breakup with someone. Yeah, he’s blocked me before and this typical behavior for him. But you don’t do that sort of thing. I never would have blocked him over something like this. Mature people don’t do that. The problem is, it’s hard for me to let go of him. I have abandonment issues that make it so hard to do. I know it’s the right thing to do, I just feel I can’t do it. I feel I want to try and work things out. Perhaps if we actually do talk about things, I can bring up this blocking behavior. I also think breaking up with someone over something like this is a bit over the top. It doesn’t seem like a big enough issue to break up with someone over.