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Originally Posted by FeelingLost78
The thing I am needing to know is whether or not we’re broken up. I need to know where things stand with us. Stonewalling and ghosting is never the right way to breakup with someone. Yeah, he’s blocked me before and this typical behavior for him. But you don’t do that sort of thing. I never would have blocked him over something like this. Mature people don’t do that. The problem is, it’s hard for me to let go of him. I have abandonment issues that make it so hard to do. I know it’s the right thing to do, I just feel I can’t do it. I feel I want to try and work things out. Perhaps if we actually do talk about things, I can bring up this blocking behavior. I also think breaking up with someone over something like this is a bit over the top. It doesn’t seem like a big enough issue to break up with someone over.
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I see. I'm really sorry this is such a difficult situation for you. I agree it's over the top on his end.
Not sure if you saw my earlier edit but it fits here too: to me it sounded like you've already been influenced by his manipulative pressure before, like, when you were instantly apologising when he got upset in an unreasonable way. So that's damage resulting from the relationship, which is one reason why it's not a good idea to continue it, as it's going to take time and effort to reverse and heal the already existing damage too.
Maybe this will help consider breaking up with him.
Also you could look for support, so you don't feel totally alone when you break up with him. Friends, support groups, therapist, etc.
The best luck to you either way!!