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Originally Posted by Etcetera1
I see. I'm really sorry this is such a difficult situation for you. I agree it's over the top on his end.
Not sure if you saw my earlier edit but it fits here too: to me it sounded like you've already been influenced by his manipulative pressure before, like, when you were instantly apologising when he got upset in an unreasonable way. So that's damage resulting from the relationship, which is one reason why it's not a good idea to continue it, as it's going to take time and effort to reverse and heal the already existing damage too.
Maybe this will help consider breaking up with him.
Also you could look for support, so you don't feel totally alone when you break up with him. Friends, support groups, therapist, etc.
The best luck to you either way!!
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You are exactly correct. I know it’s best to break up with him, but I have a strong desire to wan t to work things out with him. I know breaking up is the right thing to do. Letting him go is not going to be easy because I have abandonment issues. I feel I’d rather be with him than be alone. My biggest fear about letting him go is that I’ll never meet anyone again. That’s why I’m hesitant to do that. There are plenty of people who never meet someone again. I’m terrified of that. I don’t need to be with someone, I want to be with someone because I want to settle down, get married again, and grow old with a person. That’s something I want for myself. It’s also very hard to meet single men in my town. Everything closes so early and the only things that stay open at night are the bars. The bar scene is not a place single women want to be at alone. Anyway, this is why it’s so hard for me to consider breaking it off with him.