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Originally Posted by FeelingLost78
Yes, that is very true. But one of the reasons why I am not so quick to leave him is because, unless this relationship is pretty much dead, I ask myself, are these issues things we can work out and fix? Sometimes people don’t realize how their behavior affects other people. Sometimes it takes talking about it for the other person to realize it. I could be naive in this thinking with him, and sometimes people don’t change and it doesn’t matter how much you try and talk to them. It may be a lost cause with him, but I wouldn’t mind at least trying if it’s possible.
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He knows what he's doing will hurt and bother you. Especially if he's done this before (blocking you). And haven't you already communicated in various ways to him that it's bothering you? I mean, you asked him to unblock you, so he knows it's bugging you. He's likely enjoying having that kind of control over you.
There's a pattern of behavior already with him, and it's not a pretty one. I don't think this relationship is as "good" as you believe if he has a pattern of blocking every time there is an argument or conflict. That threatens a breakup every single time you cannot agree, which gives him all the control, and which makes the relationship constantly unstable and uncertain for you.
That's exactly how an abuser operates. It's possible that this man is abusive.