I'd be bothered by both of those comments. I know I also put off some "nervous energy." The other day, I mentioned to my T how I know I probably seemed really anxious, and he said, "You seem normal to me." I said how maybe I always came off as that anxious then? And he said, "It's one of your 'normals'." I think he's just used to it.

I say that in part because you mentioned how this is a new T. She may be picking up on this now because you're a new client, so she's trying to get a read on what your "normal" is (so that she'd be able to notice if you were acting differently from that). And it can be helpful to point out how a client might seem to the outside world. This is something my T seems into, to let me know how others might experience me, which has led to some conflicts and insecurity on my part (and to my asking, say, my H or a friend if certain things bother them--in those cases, my T was wrong, so it caused some unnecessary angst). But it has also been helpful in some ways and led to some positive changes for me.

However, I don't think she should have mentioned that your future clients could be affected by it. First, as you said, how you present yourself in your own therapy is different from how you'd be as a therapist, on the other side of the couch. I think of, say, people who might have social anxiety at a party but are perfectly fine giving a presentation in front of others (I fit that category). Also, even if you *did* come across that way to your clients, most probably either wouldn't notice or wouldn't be bothered by it. And if some of them have a similar energy themselves, they might actually feel *more* comfortable. I would say my former marriage counselor had a bit of a nervous energy (he said he had an anxiety disorder), and that made me feel more at ease in a way because I also have anxiety.

As for the internal world comment, I'm not sure she meant that as something negative, more an observation. I also have quite a bit going on in my head that I don't tend to share much (aside from, say, on here or with my T). I think it can be common. Was she encouraging you to share it more with others, maybe?

Weight is such a complex topic. I'd definitely be offended by her comment regarding how we shouldn't be like Lizzo. Would you feel like you could bring that up with her, how it bothered you? Does she know you've had an eating disorder in the past?