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Originally Posted by KateLlewellyn
Thanks for all the responses.
She can't come to me as I have a very difficult home life unfortunately. We have met multiple times before covid, and we were always great together so she does know what I'm like in person, she just wants me to come after two years of not being able to, basically.
I have always thought She was quite unwilling to come to a mutual agreement about things but I overlooked it because everything else was good.
The problem I have is that if I do leave to meet her my family wouldn't allow me home due to the risk of covid. She thinks this is ridiculous but I really don't know what to think anymore.
To be clear though after about a year of covid she wanted me to come back, I just haven't been able to due to lots of life problems. None of which are enough to justify it to her.
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The thing that stands out to me is she gives up like just before meeting..... Like she lost her trust so much she won't believe you'll come. Maybe she's hoped for so long during these 2 years that she doesn't want to get disappointed again if you don't actually end up visiting her on the 26th.
I can understand her, I would also get very mistrustful if I kept getting told things that sound like excuses, like "lots of life problems". I do think it's ridiculous that your family wouldn't allow you back - since there is quarantine. I also don't know how old you are but you do need to take responsibility here.
And I don't think your gf "was quite unwilling to come to a mutual agreement about things". She was willing to wait 2 whole years to see you. That's not a mutual agreement? She gave in to your need to wait for 2 years, so to me it's plenty mutual agreement and cooperation.
Again, you do need to see your side here in things and take responsibility for not prioritising her for 2 whole years, prioritising those "lots of life problems" instead and your family's demands. Unless it's some extreme situation like you ended up in the hospital for long months, that stuff will just come off like excuses to anyone and anyone would lose their patience in the end and eventually feel betrayed. Try to understand her side.