Thanks much for the article.

I did not understand these parts:

1. "Most people, no matter how unresponsive, will respond when they see you through the bat signal up over Gotham."

I mean, I don't know enough about batman movies so what is this phrasing supposed to mean? Does it just mean people will respond and try to help in times of true need/crisis?

And the last sentence here:

"For most, this is not a “lost” to mean they are living terrible lives, breaking laws and not contributing to society, but lost in that their priorities in life are very obviously off, and they are very much in need of a presence in their life to model a different way of being, a presence in their life that can encourage and help guide them to a more righteous way of living. Most of my friends accept, and in fact expect, my guidance in that way. Though, for the bulk of you reading this, if you tried to be a friend in that way, you’d get unfriended on Facebook pretty quickly."

So the last sentence, it felt like the author was being really boastful lol and like expressing how he/she is superior to others when it comes to providing guidance to friends. How would you interpret it yourself?

But yeah, otherwise good article. I already decided on all this really, and I hope you'll be able to do something too with those friends.

I'm currently working on how to detach enough from people so I don't have all that much of an emotional reaction if they do crap, be that ignoring of me or manipulative insults or whatever else. I would still want to have a reaction but not too strong. Just enough of a reaction that I'm informed by it and then I know what to say or do. Do you/Does anyone have any tips on this?

I know I'm able to detach (and still keep enough emotional reactivity inside, but not too much) if I wasn't totally deeply attached in the first place and the other person does something that truly destroys most of my trust. But not sure how to do it otherwise.....

Also a problem of mine is that by default I detach on the spot if someone I care about says manipulative ****. And my emotional reaction comes much later if ever (yes I used to be too detached but not in a way that's helpful for me). I've worked on this, and I'm now able to respond emotionally like 1 day later.

This is big improvement for me. But I need to be able to respond immediately, whether that's just me saying "Ok I'm done with this convo. Talk to me when you're calm and rational enough as I will not tolerate this behaviour". Or whatever. And the way I respond now 1 day later is too strongly emotional, whether I show it to the person or not.